I wear many hats; I am a mom, blogger, youth worker, daughter, teacher, sister, friend, and school board member. From all of these jobs I tend to stay busy and tired. I always get asked how do I find the time to coupon and do everything that I am apart of. The honest answer is that I don’t find time for everything. This year has not been as busy, but it has been full of important opportunities.
For starters at work I got a raise and it has led to new job responsibilities. At my daughter’s school I am the secretary of the Home School Association, and that has also lead to more responsibilities. There has been a lot of behind the scene work going on with Sister Save-A-Lot and that has also kept me busy. No matter what I made the ultimate worst mistake as a single parent. My mistake was not sitting down and helping my daughter with school work.
Now let me take the time to explain, my daughter is very smart and has done very well in school. She is now in the 2nd grade and from what I thought she was not having any issues. We would sit weekly and go over spelling words and complete the homework assignments and that was it. Fast forward to progress report time and it hit me that my daughter was struggling with school. I took the news from her teacher hard, but my daughter took it even harder. She cried for a full hour and then went to sleep.
I now knew that I was the worst mommy ever. I thought that she was doing well and didn’t need my help, but found out that wasn’t the case. Going to 2nd grade was a challenge for her. While her friends in school seem to adjust to 2nd grade really well, my daughter was struggling with catching on. She informed me that the other students in school was catching on quickly to what her teacher was teaching and she she was not. She also informed me that she was scared to ask for help. I asked her why and she stated that she din’t want the kids to think she was not smart.
After sitting with her and discussing that I am not mad about her grades, I thanked her for giving me the wake up call. While most parents would be upset, I was not. I knew that I dropped the ball and did not do my job. This news put me on the path that I needed to be on, and that was placing more focus on my daughter and her education. As a former educator, I find it very hard to have patience when it comes to teaching my daughter. Like the good parents that I know I am, I took to the internet and did some research on what would help her. We now have a game plan and I am happy to report that my daughter is doing well in school and is looking forward to being back on the honor roll soon in school.
Check out what is working for her:
Every Saturday morning my daughter attends Saturday University. Saturday University is a FREE tutoring program throughout Chicago that is ran by the Black Star Project. The Black Star Project has tutors volunteer. The tutors gives their time and talent to youth each Saturday and help them with learning. You can check out their sites for FREE tutoring here.
Each night my daughter and mother reads some parts of the Magic Tree House series. To help with comprehension, I make up questions that she has to answer once they complete a chapter. In the morning on the way to school, I ask her to tell me about the story that she read with granny.
To help with her spelling test, my daughter loves recording her weekly spelling word list on the “My Spelling Test” app that I downloaded on my iPad. Each week we sit and record the spelling words and she take the a spelling test daily. This app is the best and has helped her with passing her test each week.
For math every night my daughter practice math flash cards. She also completes an math worksheet on her own. Since math is a real challenge for her, if she does the math worksheet on her own with out being prompted, she get a sticker. If she get 7 stickers each week, she is allowed to pick a treat from my “Treasure Box” of nick nacks. Using this reward system helps her and she loves getting something new.
Being a mom is the most important job that I have. With this blog I have been able to accomplished a lot of goals that I never thought that I would have. No matter how good a sale is, how many reports I have to do for work, what meeting on late night conference call I need to be on, my daughter will always come first. Please know that I love couponing, my website, and helping others, but sometimes you have to take a step back and focus on what is important. I made a huge single parenting mistake by focusing on everything but what was important. Believe me that would never happen again.
Have you ever made an mistake as a parent? If so tell me in the comment section.